No one should feel the trauma and shame of narcissistic abuse. You feel confused, distraught and powerless. Deep down, you know this person is wrong for you and that they’re intentionally harming you, but you feel like you can’t stop obsessing about them. You may feel astounded that you can’t leave them … and stay away.
I know you feel like you can’t stop being hooked in. I was addicted to someone who was destroying me too, and I’m here to tell you that it’s not your fault.
I’ve endured narcissistic abuse in an intimate relationship. And for more than 4 years I’ve helped women and men just like you break free from intimate partner, family, friend and co-worker toxic relationships to heal completely, so they can dramatically transform their lives.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can lead to us feeling many things; which mostly are not good. Narcissists have an amazing ability to make us feel bad about who we are.
So much so that we start to lose sight of our own value . We become so blinded of our worth through their constant verbal, emotional, physical and most importantly psychological torture that we no longer see our value.
We no longer can see ourselves without them. And we can no longer see a relationship as being something that can be, dare I say…healthy.
Yes, narcs have an amazing ability to distort the reality of many people they come across. …
How To Heal After A Narcissistic Relationship
Want to learn how to heal after a narcissistic relationship? I know for many the answer is yes. It can seem like it is an endeavor that will never happen. Quite often when we leave a narc (either by being discarded or of our own volition) we feel confused.
We feel hurt, angry, upset, violated, and so much more. But most often times we feel confused. Ideas such as, “did I do something wrong” or “was it my fault” or “am I NOT good enough” are easily some of the most prevalent questions we ask ourselves.
But to quickly answer these question the answer is NO to all of them.
We did nothing wrong but love.
And the only fault we made is ignoring the red flags .
Healing may seem like it is something that is not possible because we feel so damaged and broken. But I promise you that we can heal. And I promise that it is possible to be happy once again.
The pain that we feel is but a stormy season. And like all stormy seasons…it too…will pass.
Your Healing Begins When You Decide
Your healing will not begin when they say sorry. Because this will only lead you back into their hands. It will not heal after reading this post. And your healing will not begin after some moment of epiphany.
To learn how to heal after a narcissistic relationship will require that you decide to stop hurting over someone who doesn’t have the capacity to love.
The more you learn about the narcissist — along with ways to which you can empower yourself — the easier, and the quicker you will be able to heal.
It all begins with you, not them.
Narcissism Saps Energy
We develop etheric cord connections with everyone we meet. Some are strong connections, others just superficial – but they all affect us.
A strong connection with a narcissist can be very draining.
Of course, the first step is knowing when you’re connected to a narcissist – and it’s not that easy to spot from the inside.
When we share a cord connection with a narcissist, they will use that connection to leech energy from us.
Are they doing it intentionally? Not really. It’s just part of who they are.
The problem with narcissists is that they can’t provide their energy from Source.
Doing so requires altruistic and kind intentions, which are entirely alien concepts to a narcissist.
So they sap our energy to feed their egos.
Discovering A Narcissist Connection
It can be difficult sometimes to tell the difference between someone who is just driven and knows what they want versus someone who is a narcissist.
Their behaviour is often very similar.
However, if you treat them like a solar eclipse and try not to look straight at them, you can tell pretty well by the effect they have on those around them.
A narcissist isn’t trying to hurt you or harm you in any way; they don’t think about what the consequences of their actions might be for you or anyone else but themselves.
Being driven and ambitious doesn’t remove empathy, but narcissism is the absence of it.
Are they continually bringing negative energy to you for no reason of your own? Do you only ever feel drained by their presence? Is it always like walking on eggshells with them?
These are signs that you might be connected to a narcissist.
Cutting The Cord For Good with Body Code System
Recognise that they will try to worm their way back in. While an average person would recognise that they are no longer wanted and leave, it doesn’t occur to the narcissist that you have an opinion on the matter at all.
During times of weakness, you may allow the connection to reform, but you must gather the strength to keep the cord cut.
It might feel harsh. They might even make you feel bad for doing it. But no good can come from an etheric cord connection with a narcissist.